Sharon, a woman we know, told us she wanted a better relationship but in the next breath, she said that she wasn't willing to put forth any effort to do anything about it.

We're fascinated with the number of people we come in contact with that tell us, just like Sharon, that they want more love, closeness and intimacy, but don't take any steps to create it.

Whether you want to attract a new partner into your life or want to create more intimacy in your current relationship, one of the best ways we can suggest is to create, as author Daphne Rose Kingma calls, an "atmosphere of love" around yourself.

So what is an atmosphere of love? One of the best ways we can describe it is by reminding you of its opposite.

We're sure that you've all experienced stepping into a room and having the feeling that the energy was so "thick" with anger, rage, sorrow or any number of intense emotions that you could "cut it with a knife."

When you create an "atmosphere of love," it's exactly the opposite. You are creating a presence around yourself that is inviting, alive, warm and giving. It's an openness for possibilities and for trust between two people.

Otto's sister creates an atmosphere of love around her. She always expresses that she's happy to see us when we get together. We feel welcomed and loved when we go to her home. She sends us cards of appreciation every now and then. There is a warm, open feeling of love in the room when we are with her.

If you want to create an atmosphere of love to attract more love into your life, here are a few things that we do to create it in our home:

• We greet each other warmly and openly when either of us comes home, even after being away for only a short while.
• We often give each other hugs during the day or just touch.
• We try to really listen to each other and maintain eye contact while we do it.
• We laugh together at our "mistakes" or shortcomings and try not to blame each other.
• We try to honor how we are different and what blessings these differences bring to our lives.

Whether you are in an intimate relationship and want to make it better or you would like to attract an intimate partner into your life, we suggest that you begin to create an "atmosphere of love" with the people that are already in your life.

You can take some of our ideas if they resonate or feel right to you and add your own.

Start thinking about what you can do in your life to start creating an "atmosphere of love."

When you focus on this, we think it will make a big difference in the quality of your relationships and your life.

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