Recently, we received a letter from one of our clients explaining that he was handling the "dramas" in his life better than in his past.

He also emphasized that these were what he considered very small "baby steps" in making positive changes in his relationships and his life.

As we were thinking about his words, we were struck by how often most people don't recognize and celebrate the progress and growth they have made in their relationships and their lives.

Sometimes we've made significant progress in our personal growth and in our relationships and we don't recognize the growth until someone else points it out.

As we were thinking about our own relationship, we realized that when there are challenges that come up between the two of us, we are now spending less time being disconnected from one another than before.

When challenges come up, we are finding our center and regaining our connection much quicker than we did a year ago. We are also being a little less defensive with one another.

On the surface these seem like small, inconsequential things. But, when they are added up-- they have made a significant impact on the quality of our already outstanding relationship.

So, we invite you to take a few moments to identify the baby steps you've made recently towards making your relationships and life better. If you have a partner, spend some identifying and celebrating the "baby steps" each of you have made. If you're single, either take time by yourself or with a friend who knows you well and do the same.

Earlier tonight, we took turns sharing with each other how we each thought the other had made positive steps in their personal growth and in making our relationship better.

You may choose to do it this way, or create your own way to celebrate.

Essentially, we're suggesting that you take some time and intentionally focus on finding the good in yourself and in your relationships.

This is important because very often we spend a lot of time focusing on what's going wrong in our relationships and not on what's "going right."

In life and in your relationships, whatever you focus on, you attract more of. We're suggesting that if you want more joy, connection and love in your life that you spend more time focusing on these things than the things you want less of or want to eliminate.

So, let the celebrating begin.

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