Releasing Someone That You Care About

Is there someone in your life who is incapable of reciprocating your love? Maybe they don’t feel the same way you feel, maybe they are struggling with an addiction and can’t reciprocate or maybe they are physically or emotionally unavailable. If you love someone who is incapable of returning your love, you may want to practice releasing them in a loving way so that you may go on to receive the love that you are worthy of.

Recently I had to release someone that I loved who was, at the time, unable to reciprocate that love. During my pain and desperation in trying to find a way to release him, I came up with the powerful meditation below.

First, get in a comfortable position and a quiet space. Start by focusing on your breathing and when you feel relaxed bring this person to mind, as visually as you can. Think of the last time you saw the person. What were they wearing? Where were you? Can you picture his/her facial expression? Can you picture any other surroundings or details?

Once you have this person in mind, picture looking deeply into his/her eyes. And tell him/her exactly what you would like to say to them. If you are feeling pain because you love them and they didn’t reciprocate that love--- go ahead and express that without blame or guilt but just as matter of fact.

Tell them how much you enjoyed his/her company, how great you felt being with them, what you admire about them, or anything that you would like to say to them before you release them. (Below, I have included the wording for some of the things I included in one of my meditations as an example.)

Thank this person for being in your life, for the memories you have had, for the gifts you have received...Once you have said all that you want to say picture the person in the palms of your hands as if you were holding something very fragile. (Picture a smaller version of him/her in the palms of your hands being cradled.)

Now say any last goodbyes and give the person a kiss or whatever. Now lovingly release them by blowing them a kiss. As you blow them a kiss, visualize millions of tiny golden specks of light floating everywhere. The person evaporates into millions of golden lights. Affirm that you release him/her to the Universe.

As you notice all the golden sparks flowing everywhere, take one tiny golden speck and place it in your heart. Now affirm: "I release you to the Universe, and know that a part of your essence will always be with me in my heart."

If the person comes back to your mind once you've released them, know that you don’t need to think about them anymore because he/she is permanently embedded in your heart. They are a part of you. Nothing can change that. You no longer need to give any thought or energy into trying to hold on to that person. That person and the love (or essence of the person) is ALWAYS with you.

Keep doing this meditation until you feel like you have released the person. Every time you think of the person see if you can release the thought or energy and remember that they are in your heart forever and that nothing can change that…

Now once you have released, it is important to claim to the Universe what you do want. So you’ve released this person for a reason, maybe because they weren’t “right” for you, etc. Now claim that by releasing this person you have made a declaration to the Universe regarding what you do want. You have released (lovingly) everything that doesn’t serve you and you now claim the situation or experience that serves you.

You may also want to affirm that you are worthy of receiving what you want. And that you have proved that you are by lovingly releasing this person. You have shown a great act of self love by standing firm in knowing what you deserve…

Now give thanks for the experience, knowing that what you have claimed for yourself is true for you.

Here are the thoughts and processes that I used for a specific person whom I will refer to as Joe.

Joe: I love you and I absolutely admire you. I think you’re wonderful. I adore you and I feel that we had great potential together. But I honor your decision to be free of a relationship and to do the things you need to do in the world. I value you as a person and have the utmost respect for you. In my eyes you are perfect. I love everything about you. I will miss you. You will always be in my heart. I want the absolute best for you. It is okay that you want to concentrate on your business. I know that it is not personal. I honor you for being true to yourself. I am grateful to have known you. I want you to know that even though I am saying goodbye that you will always be in my heart. You have become part of me. Nothing can change that. I want you to know that it is hard for me to let you go, but I know that it is the best for both of us. I will be forever blessed to have known you. I just want you to know how special you are and how loved you are. I know you are free to go on and do great things in this world, and I know that I am free to go on to experience receiving love. I release you with no expectation or hidden agenda to get you back. I release you with the full knowing that what is important is invisible, and that even though we won't be physically together, we are connected in spirit. I release you in absolute love; knowing that you are love and that I am love, and that only love remains.

Having released you, I now declare to the Universe that I will only accept a relationship in which the other person can fully give and receive love. I know that all the qualities that you possess are capable of being found in another person, and I know that just as I want to give and receive love, that there is someone else somewhere that wants that just as much as I do. I open myself to experiencing this type of relationship. By releasing what no longer serves me, I create the space to experience a fully conscious, committed, loving relationship.

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