Balance is the key for continuing a healthy relationship. Constantly being positive creates a fake, superficial atmosphere that can make your partner feel suspicious. Acting positive when you don't feel positive can simply repress your negative emotions instead of releasing them. Constantly being negative (arguing, not listening) is obviously unhealthy.

Why? Because we haven't really lived life to the fullest until we've experienced as much as possible, not just the extreme that we feel the most comfortable with. When jumping into a new situation, we should be both optimistic and pessimistic. For example, I'm currently taking a speech course in college. If I had a one hundred percent positive attitude, I could think I could do well without preparing. If I had a one hundred percent negative attitude, I may not even begin the speech course.

I think one of the most overlooked problems with relationships is how to keep them from not feeling stale. We may know how to prevent bad things from happening to us, but do we know how to cause good things to happen to us?

Being a 'fence-sitter' is not maintaining a spiritual balance, it's simply another extreme. Our spirit is inherently pure and holy, but it's not stagnant. In my opinion, doing too much of anything for a long period time - even if it's a 'good' thing- just backfires at the end. Our spirit wants us to be flexible. Sometimes it wants us to choose to fight the enemy instead of helping the ally, so we simply know what it's like. This doesn't mean you make reckless decisions or purposefully put yourself in bad situations. It simply means that you take risks, not knowing what will happen to you - but you still have the courage to pull through.

A balanced person isn't necessarily a bisexual person who is of mixed ethnicity that's politically moderate. A balanced person knows it's not about who you are, it's about what you do. Choices. Your spirit doesn't want you to BE 'good' or 'evil'- it wants you to DO both. It wants you to live. Human beings naturally like balance, we only choose not to be balanced for fear of getting hurt. In movies, we like it when the shy character does something daring or when the dark, sexy criminal becomes the hero. It's creative, it's unique, and above all - it's human.

So the next time your spirit tells you to take a risk and do something that you wouldn't normally do - listen. It may just help to balance things out.

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