Those two questions aren't exactly unexplored territory and many people from all walks of life have given their two cents. So what else can I do, but give mine?

Unlike you see on TV, most relationships don't end up in 'the bad place' after a dramatic and embarrassing event. For instance, a man catches his significant other smooching his best friend on the couch. That's not how it works.

Most relationships turn out poorly because of our inability to be honest with each other coupled with the fact that relationships don't necessarily 'turn' bad, they sort of dwindle down until the only thing we have left of that person is a fond memory or two.

But what are we doing wrong, specifically? For one thing, we're simply not spending enough time with each other.

Spending decent, face-to-face time with a person will usually tell us everything we need to know, not to mention some things we may not want to know but we should find out anyway. And that information is exactly what we need to hear if we wish to have a happy, fulfilling relationship.

You may have been told to trust your first instincts about a person, especially those who are potential companions. Based on experience, 'trusting your gut' is not something I'd recommend unless your safety is in obvious jeopardy. We're only human, after all, and are thus equipped with innate prejudices that we are probably not even aware of.

Let us never forget that people can still surprise us for the better and the only way they can do that is if we give them a chance. With that said, what are you waiting for? Surprise the people you care (and should care) about.

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