You’re probably familiar with the phrase, “go with the flow.” It means that instead of trying to force circumstances to fit your demands, you glide with events—just like a tree does when it bends with the wind. I’d like to discuss why it is so important to go with the flow, even if it means having to postpone or modify what you want to achieve.

For most of my young life, I had a big dream—to gain a recording contract. I was a singer/songwriter, with all the drive and some of the talent needed to achieve that goal. For years, I plugged away—writing songs, performing the occasional gig, and even going the L.A. route to meet with record label reps.

Yes, I had the ambition and enough talent to make it. But the “universe” had other plans for me, because the door kept closing on my dream, no matter how hard I tried. In fact, the harder I attempted to succeed, and the more I “had to have” a music career, the more it slipped away.

In 1996, my first CD was released. Produced on a tiny budget, my music got airplay across the United States in the smooth jazz category. I was pleased, and proud of all my hard work. As wonderful as that accomplishment was, the fact of the matter was that a music career was not in the cards for me. Instead of doors opening like magic, they kept closing in my face. Was I disappointed? Of course! But I’m telling you this tale for an important reason.

To paraphrase Helen Keller, when one door closes, another opens. As one who is very familiar with the magical methods of the universe, I realized that it was time to move on to my true life’s work. And in a while, I found it—writing, speaking, and doing consulting and training for businesses and individuals. My new career suits me much better, although one day I will make another album of my latest songs—when the time is right.

What can you learn from my own story? If you take in only one idea out of this article, it’s this: The more you have to have something, the more you chase it away. This truth works in all areas of your life, including your relationships, job and finances.

I wish you every success in 2002—and the blessing of nonattachment while you’re getting there.

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